The Weight of 2,364 Days

Today is a special day for me that carries the weight of what was lost and the quiet victory of what was survived. It’s the anniversary of the day my court case was finalized. I lived many lifetimes within those years, but this date will forever mark the day I could finally exhale — the day I could begin to heal without constantly looking over my shoulder.

Surviving domestic violence is hard enough. But surviving the system — the secondary trauma of courtrooms, endless delays, and being forced to relive your abuse under the scrutiny of strangers — is something no one can prepare you for. It is not justice that feels like healing; it’s justice that often feels like another battle you never asked for.

From the first filing to the final judgment, our case remained before the court for 2,364 days — more than six years of waiting, hoping, and enduring. It wasn’t 2,364 days spent inside a courtroom, but 2,364 days of uncertainty. Days that blurred together in paperwork, hearings, and prayers. These days tested every ounce of faith and resilience my children and I had left.

Court was not a place of comfort for us — it was a battlefield dressed in suits and silence. While we were supposed to be finding safety, we were forced to sit in rooms that made us relive every wound. The system that was meant to protect often failed to recognize the complexity of coercive control, manipulation, and post-separation abuse. My children and I were not just testifying about the past — we were surviving the ongoing tactics of someone who wanted to keep control, even through the legal process.

I watched my children grow up inside that waiting period — robbed of the simplicity of childhood because they were carrying truths far too heavy for their years. We spent birthdays, holidays, and milestones with the shadow of court dates hanging over us. But even in those years, we found light. We built strength we didn’t know we had. We clung to faith when everything else was uncertain.

When the final decision came, I didn’t celebrate with confetti or champagne. I sat silently and let the tears fall — not because we won, but because we endured. We were still standing. God had carried us through the valley when we couldn’t walk alone.

It’s been years since that chapter closed, but every time this date comes around, I remember the woman who kept showing up — for her children, for the truth, for the life God promised on the other side of suffering. I look back not with bitterness, but with gratitude — not for what we went through, but for what it created in us. And while those 2,364 days tested us beyond measure, they also refined us.

They taught me that healing is not a single moment — it’s a journey of countless steps of faith, courage, and perseverance.

To anyone still in the middle of that storm: I see you. I know the ache of waiting for justice that seems so far away. Hold on. Keep praying. Keep believing that truth prevails, even when it feels buried beneath bureaucracy and lies. One day, you’ll reach the other side too — and that day will be yours to reclaim.

Two thousand three hundred sixty-four days later, we were set free.