Survivor Speaks Truth

Tag: Intuition

  • Trust Your Gut — It’s There for a Reason

    We tell our children to trust their gut and then scold them when they try to do just that.

    We say, “Speak up if something feels off,” but when they hesitate around someone or try to set a boundary, we rush to smooth things over, make excuses, or pressure them to be polite.

    We tell them, “Always listen to that inner voice,” but then model the opposite, ignoring our own, rationalizing away discomfort, and second-guessing ourselves until guilt wins.

    And so they learn that honouring your gut might make you seem rude. That being uncomfortable isn’t enough of a reason to say no. That intuition needs to be explained, ignored, or justified.

    But the truth is, discomfort doesn’t always come with proof, unease doesn’t always have a name, and peace doesn’t always make sense on paper.

    We need to stop teaching our children and ourselves that intuition is something to be silenced or reasoned away.

    Sometimes, your body knows what your mind hasn’t figured out yet. And trusting that? That’s not weakness. That’s wisdom.

    Because not trusting your gut can have devastating consequences.

    That quiet unease you felt? It wasn’t just nothing. The hesitation, the tight feeling in your chest, or the sense that something was off, was trying to protect you.

    But so often, we ignore it. We tell ourselves we’re overthinking. We give people the benefit of the doubt. We choose politeness over peace. We excuse, override, and rationalize the warning signs our body and spirit are waving in front of us.

    And sometimes, we pay the price.

    Not trusting your gut doesn’t always lead to something catastrophic, but when it does, it’s a pain that lingers. A regret that whispers, “You knew.”

    Your gut doesn’t always come with a reason, but it comes with wisdom. It doesn’t always speak loudly, but it tells the truth.

    Honour and trust your gut, even if it makes you seem cautious, even if it means disappointing someone or is inconvenient.

    Because the cost of ignoring it is far greater than the discomfort of listening to it.

    There’s something powerful and deeply personal about that quiet voice inside us. It doesn’t shout. It nudges and whispers, but often, we’re taught to silence it in favour of logic, politeness, or other people’s comfort.

    But here’s the truth: your gut is a God-given gift. It’s not just instinct, it’s often your body’s way of sounding the alarm before your mind catches up. And when something or someone feels “off,” that feeling isn’t random. It’s a signal worth paying attention to.

    I’ve learned, sometimes the hard way, that it’s far better to err on the side of caution than to override your gut and live with regret. Too many of us have ignored that inner discomfort only to look back and say, “I knew something wasn’t right.” Please don’t dismiss it, whether in a relationship, a business deal, a conversation, or even a subtle energy shift when someone enters a room.

    Your gut instinct isn’t always logical or easy to articulate. But it’s still valid. You don’t owe anyone proof to justify how you feel. You’re allowed to make decisions that protect your peace, even if others don’t understand.

    This isn’t about walking around in fear or suspicion; it’s about walking in wisdom. Wisdom often starts with honouring those subtle cues that say, “Something doesn’t feel right here.”

    Sometimes, your gut will lead you away from danger you can’t yet see. Other times, it will remind you of boundaries you didn’t realize you needed to set. Either way, it’s there to serve you. It’s not weakness. It’s discernment. It’s self-protection. And it’s okay to listen.

    If a person makes you feel unsettled, don’t force a connection. If a situation brings anxiety, pause before you proceed. If your heart pulls you in a different direction, permit yourself to follow it.

    You are not being overly sensitive. You are being in tune.

    Trust your gut, honour what it tells you, and never apologize for choosing peace over pressure.

  • Trust Your Gut—And Teach Others to Do the Same

    There’s something powerful about instinct—an inner knowing that whispers when something doesn’t feel right. It might come as a knot in your stomach, a quickened heartbeat, or a sense of unease that you just can’t shake. That’s your gut. And more often than not, it’s right.

    We live in a world that often tells us to ignore those feelings. To be polite. To give people the benefit of the doubt. To not rock the boat. But ignoring your gut can come at a devastating cost—not just to you, but to your children and those who look to you for guidance.

    If someone or something makes you feel unsettled, uneasy, or unsafe, that matters. You don’t need a list of offenses or solid proof before you listen to that nudge inside. Sometimes your discernment picks up on things that your mind hasn’t fully processed yet. And brushing it off in the name of niceness sends a dangerous message—not only to yourself, but to your children: Don’t trust your instincts.

    If your child tells you they don’t feel comfortable around someone, believe them. Don’t force them to hug, to smile, to be alone with someone they feel uneasy around. That moment you brush off their fear or discomfort and say, “Don’t be rude,” or “He’s just trying to be friendly,” you’re teaching them that their gut can’t be trusted—that keeping others comfortable is more important than honouring their own feelings.

    And if you’re uneasy about someone yourself, but still allow them into your life or the lives of your children, what message are you sending? That your boundaries are negotiable? That your discomfort is irrelevant?

    You don’t owe anyone access to you—or your children—just because you’re afraid of being judged or misunderstood. Your gut doesn’t lie. And more importantly, it’s a God-given protection mechanism, not something to be silenced.

    Mixed messages are confusing and harmful. When we preach safety but ignore red flags, when we tell our kids to speak up but silence their concerns, when we say “trust your instincts” but then dismiss our own—we aren’t walking in truth. And truth matters.

    So if something feels off, trust it.

    If someone’s words and actions don’t align, pay attention.

    If your gut tells you “something isn’t right,” you don’t need permission to act on that.

    Your job isn’t to make everyone feel comfortable. Your job is to protect your peace, your boundaries, and the people in your care.

    Let’s raise a generation that doesn’t second-guess themselves. That knows they’re allowed to say no. That doesn’t apologize for walking away from what doesn’t feel right.

    It starts with us.

    Trust your gut. And live in a way that teaches others to do the same.